Today’s post is a podcast recommendation for The Science of Happiness, which is produced by The Greater Good Science Center at the University of California, Berkeley. I’m posting their most recent episode below, which covers an exercise on writing yourself a self-compassion letter. Listen and hopefully enjoy!
Deep Breathing is often shared as a great coping skill by numerous healthcare professionals, so much so that when I mention it to someone I’m counseling it’s often met with an eye-roll. I get it. It’s been discussed and discussed and recommended and recommended, but I think it’s seldom explained as to why it’s helpful.
Recently I came across this wonderful illustration by @positivelypresent and it cemented my thoughts that everyone would benefit from reminding themselves of this “simple” fact. My expectations (and yours) are not those of others. What you expect from a situation or a person, isn’t going to match up with the expectations of that person or that situation.
And that is fine.
This is where mindfulness and non-judgmental stance (DBT) come into the picture. By accepting people, places, events, and things as they are we will make our interactions with them run much more smoothly. When we begin to perceive that things are going “bad” or “poor” we would benefit from taking a step back, taking a breath, and re-orienting ourselves.
A great way to increase your optimism and sense of hope is to regularly look back at your day and note three positive experiences you had. This exercise can help begin to decrease broad generalizations when we look at our days while also redirecting our tendency to focus on the negatives (a cognitive distortion). Give it a try! Here are mine for today.
1) My hoodie, it’s keeping me warm through this cold stint.
2) Pizza. It’s Digiorno and I love it.
3) Completed some errands that I have been putting off.